How Do You Cope With Difficult Situations?

Defense mechanisms are your personal mental security detail. They are employed to protect your mind from threats and harm. Picture them like the secret service and your brain is the president—they blend in almost unnoticed, pacing around and checking for potential threats, ready to jump in front of the proverbial bullet when necessary.

Defense mechanisms are automatic, instinctual responses that are designed to help us cope with difficult situations and neutralize the intensity of our feelings. Defense mechanisms are often not consciously chosen or controlled, but rather they are automatic responses that are triggered by the unconscious mind. They are developed in childhood and are used throughout our lives to protect ourselves from anxiety, pain, and emotional distress. While defense mechanisms can be helpful in some ways, they can also be problematic if used excessively or inappropriately. In this blog post, we will explore the various types of defense mechanisms and how they manifest in everyday life.

 

The concept of defense mechanisms was first introduced by Sigmund Freud, the founder of psychoanalysis. Freud believed that defense mechanisms were used to protect the ego, which is the conscious part of the mind that is responsible for rational thinking and decision-making. 

According to Freud, the ego is constantly under threat from the id, which is the unconscious part of the mind that is driven by instinctual desires. The ego uses defense mechanisms to protect itself from the anxiety and distress caused by the id’s impulses.

One fun fact, however, is that Sigmund Freud may have introduced the concept of defense mechanisms in his paper “The Neuro-Psychoses of Defence”, but it was his daughter, Anna Freud, who named and defined them (10 of them) in her book, “The Ego and the Mechanisms of Defence”.

There are many different types of defense mechanisms, and we will go through some of the most common ones in this blog post. Some are considered primitive, while others are considered more high-functioning. Primitive defense mechanisms often appear in early development and are unconscious and unintentional. High-functioning defense mechanisms are conscious and constructive decisions rooted in reality.

The first mechanism we will cover is repression,

which falls in the primitive category. Repression is the most basic defense mechanism, and it involves pushing painful or unpleasant thoughts and memories out of conscious awareness. Repressed thoughts and memories are stored in the unconscious mind, where they can still influence behavior and emotions without the individual being aware of it. Imagine a child who nearly drowned, has no memory of the event when he or she is older, but is very afraid of water. Repression is at play here.

 

Another example of a primitive defense mechanism is projection

Projection involves attributing one’s own undesirable thoughts or feelings onto others. For example, imagine a cheating spouse who accuses his or her partner of being unfaithful. Projection allows individuals to avoid dealing with their own negative emotions by projecting them onto others.

 

Denial is another well-known primitive defense mechanism.

Denial involves refusing to acknowledge the existence of something that is causing anxiety or distress. For example, someone who has a drinking problem may say, “I only drink socially”, or the spouse who is being cheated on in the example above may pretend not to know and avoid confronting the cheating partner. Denial allows individuals to avoid dealing with difficult situations by pretending that they don’t exist.

 

The last primitive defense mechanism we will cover is displacement.

Displacement involves redirecting one’s emotions from the original source of the emotion to a less threatening target. For example, someone who is angry at their boss may come home and take out their anger on their spouse instead of confronting their boss. Displacement allows individuals to express their emotions without facing the potential consequences of doing so.

 

Suppression is a high-functioning defense mechanism and is often confused with repression.

Someone who uses suppression is making the choice to suppress their feelings and deal with them at a later time. For example, a co-worker makes a rude comment during a meeting which angers you, but you choose to suppress the anger for the duration of the meeting, and then speak with the co-worker at a more appropriate time.  Someone using repression will not confront or acknowledge their emotions consciously.

 

The last defense mechanism we will cover is sublimation

Sublimation is considered high-functioning and involves channeling one’s negative emotions into a socially acceptable activity or behavior. For example, someone who is angry and aggressive may channel their emotions into sports or other physical activities. Sublimation allows individuals to express their emotions in a healthy and productive way, rather than allowing them to fester and cause harm to themselves or others.

 

It’s important to note that defense mechanisms are not always problematic, even though they tend to get a bad rap. They can be helpful in certain situations and in the short-term. However, defense mechanisms can become problematic when they are used excessively or inappropriately. For example, someone who uses denial to avoid dealing with a serious health problem may delay seeking treatment, which can lead to further complications. Someone who uses projection to avoid taking responsibility for their own actions may damage their relationships and reputation. Someone who uses sublimation to avoid dealing with their emotions may become overly focused on a particular activity to the point of neglecting other important aspects of their life.

So how can we recognize when we are using defense mechanisms, and how can we use them in a healthy and productive way? The first step is to become more self-aware. Pay attention to your thoughts, feelings, and behaviors, and try to identify patterns that may indicate the use of defense mechanisms. For example, do you tend to avoid situations or people that make you feel anxious or uncomfortable? Do you find yourself blaming others for your problems or failures? Do you have a tendency to justify your behavior or make excuses for yourself?

 

Identifying your defense mechanisms helps to give you a glimpse at the internal forces motivating you to self-protect. Trends will emerge, and we are able to glean more information from them, which, in turn, opens the door to change. Talking to friends, a family member, or a mental health professional can help you gain perspective on your situation and develop healthier ways of coping. It can also help you identify when your defense mechanisms are becoming problematic and when it may be time to seek professional help.

Defense mechanisms are an important aspect of our psychological makeup, and they play a crucial role in helping us cope with difficult situations. However, they can also become problematic when used excessively or inappropriately. By becoming more self-aware, seeking support from others, and developing healthier coping strategies, we can learn to use our defense mechanisms in a healthy and productive way.